Misplaced concern

There is considerable hyperventilation in the comments section over at this blog, primarily in regards to understanding the social realities at play.

This really isn’t about religion. It’s about the fact that in a religious community people are close and cloistered. It’s about the fact that victims have not felt strong enough to confront the world they live in. I certainly don’t blame them. It’s decidedly not about a victim trembling in regards to the Halacha of mesira. It’s not about a victim coming to a Rabbi who follows the Aguda versus the RCA. The closer and more united a community is, the more difficult it is for victims to come forward. This, more than halachic nuance, is the critical issue.

I contend that very few are truly worried about the halachic issue; they are a drop in the ocean. In the past, it was a combination of misguided attempts at minimising bad press and a gross lack of understanding of the nature of crimes, their recidivism and the long-term effect they have, which influenced well-meaning people to make the tragic wrong call.

In my estimation it’s mainly all about societal pressures and realities not halachic pronouncements. Cover ups have occurred throughout history across all groups and all religions. The common element is the close and cloistered nature of the group.

We need to focus on the main group of people: victims. We need to continue to encourage each and every one of them to feel they can come forward without the social stigma. There is no halachic issue according to any posek: a victim may and should go to the police. While we concentrate on those who knew and should have known better, we must ask ourselves why we have been complicit in a societal structure that inhibits victims from going to the police.

Some of the commenters on the aforementioned blog can’t “imagine” that this sort of thing would happen in a modern orthodox or religious Zionist style community. Think again. It happened. The crimes were not reported and it was not about halacha. It was about victims feeling that they could not go to the police. This is what we need to address.

Victims will make a difference to attitudes. They don’t need a Rabbinic or Psychologist gatekeeper. What victims can achieve, nobody else can.

The key to reform is opening up tabooed doors.

There are a number of perpetrators and victims who still occupy the proverbial “cone of silence”. I continue to hope that victims have the strength and empowerment to emerge and proceed directly to the authorities. It matters little whether incidents happened 5 years ago or 25 years ago.

Silence only works against the present and future. If we deal with the past, we protect the future.

Author: pitputim

I've enjoyed being a computer science professor in Melbourne, Australia, as well as band leader/singer for the Schnapps Band. My high schooling was in Chabad and I continued at Yeshivat Kerem B'Yavneh in Israel and later in life at Machon L'Hora'ah, Yeshivas Halichos Olam.

4 thoughts on “Misplaced concern”

    1. He seemingly did not report this to the police. Importantly, once victims in melbourne came forward they went to the correct authorities: the police, and not some internal investigation. If that Adelaide priest is guiltless he has nothing to fear.


  1. Cover-ups and contnued support.

    Edited: I don’t as a rule republish Scott Rosenberg’s opinion pieces, however, the case of Israel Weingarten is particularly unsavory and he deservedly was put behind bars for a long period. (I have issues with Scott’s intellectual honesty, but that’s not for now)

    This chilling testimony from Weingarten’s brother is heart breaking. That being said, I cannot accept the Satmar community supporting this vile person and cannot fathom the cover up.



  2. More cover-ups and continued support.


    My point is that we all have to stop pretending that molestation is similar to other crimes like fraud where someone can say “sorry, I won’t do it again”, and it’s all over.

    Covering up encourages others. Society’s way of stopping crimes is punishment. Where there is no punishment there is complete lawlessness, eg holocaust, Rawanda etc etc. It’s really not complicated.

    This molester caused unimaginable, constant, long-term suffering resulting in about 29 suicides. Perhaps he could have been stopped after the first victim had others not turned a blind eye.



Leave a Reply

Please log in using one of these methods to post your comment:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: