Davening etiquette/halacha (Part 2)

In Part 1, I wondered about someone who was consistently finding that they were not able to be with the Minyan at Shmoneh Esreh for a variety of reasons, such as davening slowly or coming late to the extent that they can’t get to Shmoneh Esreh whether they follow the Mishna Brura or the Ari (based on the Zohar) about davening in order without skipping. See details in Mishna Brura Orach Chaim 52: 1.

There is a Sha’arei Tshuva (ad loc) that writes in אות א, that if someone finds themselves davening with Kavono and can’t achieve the above, that they should not skip in any case. That, however, is clearly not the issue of someone who does this on a daily basis.

It is, in my opinion (not LeHalacha and not LeMaaseh) that if one finds oneself davening in such a minyan on a daily basis that they have three choices

  1. Come earlier so that they reach Tefilla B’Tzibbur with the rest of the Minyan, so that nobody is waiting for them (see Rav Stern in Be’er Moshe 4:9 where he permits starting early not to miss a Kaddish, Yabea Omer O.C. 2:7, Also Lekach Hakemach Hachodosh 90:66.
  2. Skip parts if they can’t make it earlier
  3. Daven elsewhere

I also saw this sentiment confirmed by R’ Moshe Feinstein in Igros Moshe Chelek Daled, Orach Chaim, as quoted in Tefila Kehalacha by Rav Fuchs, and this is also understood as the opinion of R’ Elyashiv in Avnei Yushfeih. See also Chayei Adom 19:1,  Halichos Shlomo Tefilla 8:7, Dinim V’hanhogos of the Chazzon Ish 4:5

In conclusion, it is logical to conclude that if you are one of basically ten or eleven or twelve, in a minyan that davens at a non Yeshivish pace, so that people can get to work then you are simply not entitled to impose your slower davening pace (as well-intentioned as it may be) or following the Ari/Zohar (Shulchan Aruch HoRav) about not skipping Psukei Dzimra or entitled to constantly come such that you aren’t one of the 6 who are commencing Shmoneh Esreh (six is the opinion of a vast array of Poskim).

Author: pitputim

I've enjoyed being a computer science professor in Melbourne, Australia, as well as band leader/singer for the Schnapps Band. My high schooling was in Chabad and I continued at Yeshivat Kerem B'Yavneh in Israel and later in life at Machon L'Hora'ah, Yeshivas Halichos Olam.

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