Zimri and Cozbi

Pinchas received the blessing of Peace (albeit somewhat moderated) for his act of Es Laasos Lashem, in which he didn’t consult his Rebbi, Rabbon shel Yisrael, Moshe Rabeinu for advice. I found a quote attributed to the famed Ishbitzer in Mei Hashiloach (oft quoted by Shlomo Carlebach) and widely considered an Ish Kadosh. He wrote:

“Behold there are ten levels of sexual passion. The first is one who adorns himself and goes out intentionally after a sinful liaison, that is, that he himself pulls toward him the evil inclination [yetzer hara]. After that there are another nine levels and at each level another aspect of freedom is taken from him so that increasingly he cannot escape from sin until the tenth level. At that [level] if he distances himself from the yetzer hara and guards himself from sin with all his power until he has no capacity to protect himself further and still his inclination overpowers him and he does the act, then it is surely the will of God. . . . For Zimri in truth guarded himself from all wicked desires, and when he understood that she [Cozbi] was his soul mate, it was not in his power to release himself from doing this deed. . . . The essence of the matter is that Pinchas thought Zimri was an ordinary adulterer . . . and the depth of the matter eluded him regarding Zimri that she was his soul mate from the six days of creation.”

I don’t get it. What was wrong with Chuppa and Kiddushin? What’s with the Ohel Moed? It seems to me that the Ishbitzer is trying to say that when people dramatically descend  in Madregos, there comes a point that they are no longer in control, and perhaps the power is lacking (challenged is a word I’d be more comfortable with).

I find the quote unnerving. Does someone have a Hesber?

On the contrary, we seem to learn from Adam and Chava, based on Gemora and Medrash that the Snake “raped” Chava, or inserted a “filthy spirit” to impregnate her. It was more than “plain” rape. Was it entrapment, seduction etc?

Cain, is from the union of Chava and the Nachash according to Chazal, at least figuratively. Adam was apparently influenced by Lilith with whom he somehow connected sexually with various Briyos as outcomes of that union.

Isn’t our task, starting from Avos and Imahos through Matan Torah, to reverse the failings of Adam and Chava and restore union between spouses to the level before the Nachash?

This seems to disagree with the Ishbitzer. The Ishbitzer goes on to say words that

Pinchas did not have the wisdom required to understand the situation fully. He saw inappropriate sexuality, and took it upon himself to punish it…but if he could have seen what was really going on, he would have known that Zimri and Cosbi were soulmates, a pairing foreordained at the moment of creation. And if he had known that, he would have behaved in an entirely different way.