The victims of this abuse have life-long sentences. That community must be one of the saddest and most troubled in a long time. I can’t see any other option but to disperse and live elsewhere; what a tragedy.
The next time somebody tries to sell you the line that ‘it happened years ago’ and that the criminal who did the abuse is ‘cured and gets respected professional psychological help’ ask yourself when the victims will be cured despite their own psychological treatment. Ask yourself whether the victims and their families will ever recover.
Next time someone expresses the view that the parents of an alleged abuser are nebachs and it’s no fault of theirs (which may well be the case in many instances, and sadly true) remind them to apportion at least as much, if not more pity on the parents and families of the VICTIMS of abuse.
“Police have stressed the difficulties of testimony from children. A concerned parent who asks their child if a certain person hurt them has immediately tainted the investigation, and may have rendered the child’s testimony inadmissible in court. Similarly, a parent who promises their child a candy bar after three hours of grueling testimony with a police investigator is considered to have offered their child a bribe, and thus disqualified their testimony.”
The above is an excerpt from the article. How is a parent supposed to find out if their child is a victim if they do not ask the child questions like who, what, when, and where? Giving a distressed, frightened and perhaps psychologically damaged child a treat is a bribe? What a strange legal system the Israelis seem to have. What possible logic of common sense could this be based on? None that I can understand.
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I understand that they are also concerned about false positives, but the data suggests that this concern is minuscule. I recently read a book by a frum psychologist on this topic, and what was apparent there was that HE discovered the abuse in almost all the cases. If a child is crying and not wanting to leave home, then perhaps certain groups have a tendency not to go to a professional. Members of those groups are often uneducated about modern approaches to psychological distress: sometimes they even share disdain for chochmas hagoyim. They may well run to a Rabbi or Melamed for advice or try and bury the issue with simplistic approaches, including childrens bribes. Ironically, despite the fact that they almost certainly realised that the approaches to health would become outdated, Chachmei HaGemora and Rishonim like the Rambam, considered that people should be aware of the “latest” approaches to health. They went as far as including this advice in Shas and Poskim. It is no less important in our day to accept that mental health issues ought not be stigmatic, and where a parent, friend or teacher sees there is something clearly wrong, that professional advice be sought. Education is the answer. It won’t happen though until the ‘Daas Torah’ of our day TRULY embrace it, and insist on programs in each and every school. The rest of us can only try to push the awareness envelope in the hope that ‘Daas Torah’ will appreciate the immensity of the problem.
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The community of Nahlaot is currently working to set up a legal defense fund and raise money for activities for the children”. (the end the jp article(.
when will we see an appeal by adas for the defence of the Innocent Charedi that was accused falsely by the Tziyoynim ymach shmoom?
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