The sorry plight of the victims of abuse

This academic paper may be of interest to some. It describes the victim of the “victim syndrome”. Although it is a working paper, it has attracted lots of interest


From the preamble:

People who suffer from the victim syndrome are always complaining about the ―bad things that happen in their lives. Because they believe they have no control over the way events unfold, they don’t feel a sense of responsibility for them.

One moment, they present themselves dramatically as victims; the next, they morph into victimisers, hurting the people trying to help them and leaving would be helpers with a sense of utter frustration.

People with a victim mentality display passive-aggressive characteristics when
interacting with others. Their behavior has a self-defeating, almost masochistic quality. The victim style becomes a relational mode—a life affirming activity:

I am miserable therefore I am.

In this article, I present three examples of people with this syndrome and a checklist that can be used to identify sufferers. I also discuss the concept of secondary gain—the “benefits” people get from perpetuating a problem and the developmental origins of the victim mind set.

The article ends with advice on how to help people who suffer from the victim syndrome.

Another horrifying case of child abuse

The victims of this abuse have life-long sentences. That community must be one of the saddest and most troubled in a long time. I can’t see any other option but to disperse and live elsewhere; what a tragedy.

The next time somebody tries to sell you the line that ‘it happened years ago’ and that the criminal who did the abuse is ‘cured and gets respected professional psychological help’ ask yourself when the victims will be cured despite their own psychological treatment. Ask yourself whether the victims and their families will ever recover.

Next time someone expresses the view that the parents of an alleged abuser are nebachs and it’s no fault of theirs (which may well be the case in many instances, and sadly true) remind them to apportion at least as much, if not more pity on the parents and families of the VICTIMS of abuse.